“I’m scared”, “I’m nervous”, “I don’t know if I’m making the right decision” are the most common things I hear from people thinking about buying a home. I’ve never really understood what the fear is. I’m the type of person who likes to get to the root of a problem so I can understand what the issue is so that we can solve it but with homebuyers. I haven’t been able to nail down “exactly” what their fear is.
Some of the most common responses that I get when I ask,”What exactly are you afraid of?” are:
- “I’m not sure where I’ll be at in my profession next year”
- “I’m not sure I want to live in ________(insert city name here) forever”
- “What if I lose my job?”
- “What if something breaks?”
- “What if I meet Mr. or Miss Right?”
- “What if a house is too much for me to handle?”
- “I’m just scared.”
- “I’m just nervous.”
- “How do I know if I’m making the right decision?”
- “What if I just don’t like living here anymore?”
These are all legitimate feelings and concerns but there IS a solution for all these issues. I find that most fear comes from not being in control or knowing an outcome to something. One definition of fear is, “a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.” Another definition is, “something that causes feelings of dread or apprehension; something a person is afraid of.” (http://www.dictionary.com).
Buying a home should be an exciting time and happy time. I don’t want people to feel “distressed” or “fearful of something bad is going to happen”; that’s not a good thing. When someone is going to buy a new car, they usually feel happy and excited, and that’s how they should feel when buying their new home.
A home is supposed to be a place that you go to for rest, relaxation, comfort, and tranquility. When you’re house shopping you’re focused on location, amount of rooms, yard space, schools, and transportation BUT I think you should also include the “feeling” factor of the home. You need to ask yourself, “When I walk through the door, does this place feel like home to me?” Can you see yourself living in this home? Can you “see” yourself hanging on the deck or sitting at the kitchen island? If the answer is “yes”, then I say GO FOR IT!
I like to think of it as dating for marriage, you just know sometimes in your gut “when it’s the one”. So don’t be scared, GO FOR IT! You don’t want to regret the one that got away because once the house is sold, it’s sold. You can always sell it later if things change. Trust me, you won’t hurt the house’s feelings.
Written By: Shena Omotola, Dream Home Specialist & Broker Owner of Skyward Realty – Skyward Realty services Chicago, Suburbs, and Northwest Indiana
P.S. Feel free to email me any questions. I’m always here to help. Shena@SkywardRealty.com